I鈥檓 going to buy another money tree and not kill it this time, I thought to myself last year while聽reading articles about the . I wanted to participate in cute trends like , but the only time I had聽tried to keep a plant alive, I failed miserably. Before the start of the pandemic, my mother gifted me a money tree after I got my first full-time job, a family tradition. My younger sister often sends pictures of hers in group texts: it鈥檚 repotted during growing season, majestic and sprouting new leaves. I was excited to get mine but took my mother too literally when she said it didn鈥檛 need much water. She walked into my office a few months later, stopping short in front of my window. Wrenching her eyes away from my plant鈥檚 leafless, light-brown stalks, she turned towards me鈥攁ppalled. 鈥淵ou killed it,鈥 she said.
鈥淚 thought I wasn鈥檛 supposed to give it much water,鈥 I responded. She picked up the pot and handed it to me.
鈥淒rench it with water,鈥 she instructed. 鈥淢aybe it鈥檒l come back.鈥
There was no hope in her voice.
When my new money tree arrived in December 2020,聽I downloaded Planta, the go-to app for household plant care and management. When the app told me the plant needed 鈥渂right indirect light,鈥 I placed it to the side of a window in my room, far enough back that it seemed the light hit it in an 鈥渋ndirect鈥 way. I watered and fertilized my money tree as I received 笔濒补苍迟补鈥檚 alerts to do so and was pleased with myself until, a few months later, I noticed the trunks were shriveling up. I pressed my fingers into them. They were mushy to the touch. I panicked and frantically Googled 鈥渕ushy money tree,鈥 learning that I overwatered this time. I spread trash bags across the floor and scraped the rotten roots away, following step-by-step directions on YouTube. After I was聽done, there were only a few short, white roots left on two of the stalks. I doubted the plant would survive, but I repotted it anyway and wondered why a plant care app I paid for led me astray.
What does bright indirect light even mean, I thought to myself, googling 鈥渂est houseplant care books.鈥 I needed more than the step-by-step instructions that Planta or basic care guides could offer鈥擨 needed the whys beyond the obvious hows of plant care.
Thanks to these authors, I now own more than thirty plants鈥攁nd that money tree I bought in December is still alive.
The New Plant Parent, by Darryl Cheng

The first book I read, when my money tree was still in need of emergency care, was Darryl Cheng鈥檚 . As opposed to dispensing聽鈥渢ips and tricks鈥 that are focused on identifying and solving plant problems, Cheng argues that plant parents must foster a deep understanding of how plants thrive through knowledge and personal observation. In modeling this kind of relationship to plant care, The New Plant Parent taught me my most crucial lesson鈥攑lants eat light.聽 I remember learning this in grade-school biology, I thought, embarrassed but grateful for the reminder. Based on the amount of light they get, Cheng explains, plants are either starving or satisfied. To know the difference, 鈥be the plant!鈥 he writes. Position yourself so you can see what your plant sees. Can your plant see the sun? If so, that鈥檚 direct light, and most plants can tolerate about 3-4 hours of it.聽 Can your plant see the sky but the sun itself is obscured by buildings, screens, or sheer curtains? That鈥檚 bright-indirect light, and most plants prefer it. Does your plant have a constricted view of the sky, at best? That鈥檚 low light, and a few plants tolerate it鈥攂ut none thrive in it. Cheng sums up his advice as follows: 鈥淥nly some plants need to see as much sun as possible, but all plants would benefit from seeing as much daytime sky as possible.鈥 Cheng explains how the amount of light a plant gets is inextricable from how much water it needs鈥攖he reason my plant app failed me. 鈥淎 growing plant in good light is a thirsty plant,鈥 he writes, so it follows that your plant will need different amounts of water depending on the month, not just the season.
After I read the first few chapters of The New Plant Parent, I realized that caring for plants isn鈥檛 intuitive because they鈥檙e meant to be outside. The more I learned about the ways plants exist in their natural habitats, and how to observe them existing in my home鈥檚 growing conditions, the better I began to care for my new money tree. I named her Cathy and moved her to a south-facing windowsill that bathed her in bright-indirect light. I put up sheer curtains after realizing she was seeing a little too much direct sunlight. I began to test the soil with my finger before watering and bought a good humidifier, another of Cheng鈥檚 recommendations. I also pulled some takeout chopsticks out of my junk drawer to aerate her soil, allowing 鈥渁ir and water to more evenly penetrate,鈥 as Cheng directs. After a few weeks, Cathy鈥檚 stalks started producing tiny, five leaf parachute-like blooms. Then I began to accrue more plants. My daughter named our new peperomia plant 鈥減epperoni鈥 in a stroke of creative genius. Pepperoni now sits beside my neon-green pothos, LL, who recently began to trail. Rose, my ruby rubber plant, tips more and more to the right with each new leaf, asking me to repot her.
How to Make a Plant Love You: Cultivate Green Space in Your Home and Heart, by Summer Rayne Oakes

The next book in my lineup, Summer Rayne Oakes鈥檚 , repeats much of Cheng鈥檚 advice but offers larger meditations on what plants have to offer. For Oakes, our relationship to plants is reciprocal. When you care for them, they鈥檒l care for you鈥斺渃leaning your air, calming your mind, and literally tapping into your ancient, biological need to feel connected to nature.鈥 Her detailed descriptions of the purpose of chlorophyll (鈥渢o absorb all visible light wavelengths鈥), for example, conclude in statements like, plants are 鈥渟low, quiet, and most of all complex creatures鈥濃攚e must 鈥渕atch their dispositions鈥 when we can. Through personal testimonies sprinkled throughout the book, her own and others鈥, Oakes argues that caring for plants offers mental health benefits in a very-online world, one filled with 鈥渃urated, unrealistic imagery鈥 that increases levels of anxiety and depression symptoms. Oakes spends thirty minutes a day tending to her plants, longer on Sundays, and says this ritual of care is meditative while helping her keep track of and observe positive or negative changes in her plants.聽 Surviving is not thriving, I remember, while reading Oakes鈥攚hether she is talking about plants or people.
Following Oakes鈥檚 example, I began to spend a few hours a week with my plants, watering, pruning, and wiping down their waxy leaves. (I learned from Cheng they absorb more light when clean.)聽I paid more attention: I cupped my palms under new variegated leaves and stood on my tiptoes to admire new growth. It鈥檚 clear that my plants adapt to their surroundings, the way they crawl up moss poles, cascade down bookshelves, and twist their stems towards light. I slow down while caring for them and, as Oakes promises, begin to 鈥渕atch their dispositions鈥 more and more each day.
Wild At Home: How to Style and Care for Beautiful Plants, by Hilton Carter

This kind of reverence for plants also pervades Hilton Carter鈥檚 . In his introduction, Carter gushes over the beauty that plants like Frank, his fiddle-leaf fig, bring to our homes, but balances his attention to the aesthetics of houseplants with advice about attending to their needs.聽 Find a statement plant, Carter advises readers, one that has the wow factor, while also respecting that your home might not offer the conditions certain plants need, no matter how perfect they look in the space. Only after Carter outlines plant care basics does he offer styling tips, telling us to consider layers, grouping, and creating levels. When discussing planters, Carter exclaims, 鈥淵ou can鈥檛 just place a naked plant in your home. Have some humanity, dammit!鈥 These asides are not just warm and hilarious, but work to remind readers constantly that a beautiful plant is a thriving plant. Carter taught me that I鈥檓 not doing plants any grand favors by bringing them inside and taking pictures of them for my Instagram page until they die. I laughed out loud when Carter described loving Little Shop of Horrors as a child, because, according to him, there is 鈥渟omething so interesting about the care the store clerk, Seymour, gave his plant from outer space, even going as far as feeding it his own blood鈥 I鈥檓 not suggesting you do this for your plants.鈥
I wouldn鈥檛 be surprised if Carter did, honestly鈥攊f that鈥檚 what his plants needed. Carter鈥檚 focus on aesthetics doesn鈥檛 mean he sees plants as home furnishings. Quite the opposite. His appreciation for plants fuels his desire to care for them, to nurture their growth, and to show them off as the majestic beings they are. Now, when I walk into my office, I see a pair of snake plants dressed up in turquoise pots, as per Carter鈥檚 advice, positioned in the same tiny window鈥攖hriving in the space and, consequently, Instagram ready. Their dark green leaves twist upwards, rimmed in yellow. They鈥檙e gorgeous, healthy statement plants, reminding me of how far I鈥檝e come.
I鈥檓 proud of the plant owner I am now. Thanks to these authors, my townhouse is home to thirty plus plants. When I pass by them, I pick up the pots to see how light they are, poking the dirt with chopsticks to see how much dirt comes away, to see if they need water as opposed to waiting for an alert from Planta. I notice when my purple waffle plant, Kiki, and peace lily, Pema, start to droop and then watch them perk back up moments after I water thoroughly, until I see water drip out of the nursery pots, wiping up the excess with an old cloth. I make sure my windows are clean for the first time in my life, so light can get to my plants. I go to a local nursery to buy potting soil that includes seaweed and other natural fertilizers, propagate my bromeliads, and encourage new plant parents in my workplace, asking permission to lightly grab the leaves of their new plants as I talk to them about the best way to care for them. I observe, I notice, I discover.
These books have conveyed what step-by-step instructions could not:聽that a relationship with plants built on love, care, and respect鈥攁s opposed to one grounded in simply keeping them alive鈥攊s at the heart of bringing the outdoors inside. I鈥檓 still not as steady, efficient, or persistent as my plants, but in keeping them alive I get a little bit closer.